Apparently, if you're from the land down under, you're increasingly likely to have felt the physical manifestation of feminine wrath. The New South Wales Bureau of Crime Statistics figures show that over the past eight years, the number of women charged with domestic abuse has rocketed by 159 percent, from 800 to 2,336.
But even in the UK, it seems like women get away with an awful lot of physical violence that would never fly if a man did it. Whether it's slapping, punching, kicking or the throwing of large, heavy objects, most of the male staff of Asylum has experienced some violence at the hands of an angry girlfriend.
Sure, (most) women are less likely to cause serious damage, but does that make boyfriend abuse acceptable? And since you can't exactly fight back, what are you supposed to do if your lady starts hitting on you -- and not in the good way?
Leave us your tales of abuse by the fairer sex in the comments.
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Tuesday 07 July
By ozzy
Yes I have been hit by a girl (woman) on several occasions and it is no more exceptable than a man hitting a woman in anger.
I'm not a little bloke and hold a 3rd dan in kung fu. I did not hit back, nor deffend myself in any way. Is this abuse funny? no. How about a pole for woman called 'ever been hit by a bloke' Not as funny is it.
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Saturday 10 October
By TheAmazingMeatMan
Hey, Ozzy, I completely take your point, but Dans are for Japanese or Korean arts such as Ju-Jitsu or Tae Kwon Do, respectively.
As Kung Fu is a Chinese art (and, while they have different levels of expertise) the closest they ever get to belts is coloured sashes for their most advanced Sifus. There is no such thing as a Black Belt in Kung Fu. So you are either talking out of your backside (my vote), or you are going to the worst McDojo ever - one that doesn't even know the difference between China and Japan! When did you qualify for your camouflage belt??? Your surname isn't Crane, is it? lol
But about the subject at hand - I hate 'men' (and I use the term as loosely as is possible, as they aren't men at all) who hit women, as they are absolute scum. The abuse I've had from women has been mostly psychological, from my mother, to my sisters, to every single one of my girlfriends, even to some of my old female teachers. But one of my sisters was violent to me on many occasions...there was one time where she just lashed out and hit me, repeatedly, for no reason whatsoever, and I just stood there and took it. My mum took me to my dad's to stay (my parents were divorced, and I hadn't spoken to my dad for about 3 years at that point) - and she said we'd 'been fighting'!!!
Now, if someone comes up to you and hits you, and you do absolutely nothing back, does that mean that you've been 'fighting'? No, that's assault.
And another thing. Just as it seems to be the fashion these days, for women who break up with someone, or are caught cheating, to later falsely accuse them of rape, there are also a growing number of women who will falsely accuse someone of hitting them, just to make them look bad. They will accuse the person they supposedly love of being scum such as this, just for attention.
Over the years, I've known many people who have suffered the horrendous effects of both vile acts, and also those who have been falsely accused of both. False accusations do just as much damage, if not more, to THEIR victims as the acts do to genuine victims.
There was a time when I came in from a night out, the worse for wear, and as I walked in, I could hear the guy in the flat downstairs hitting his girlfriend. I so wanted to just kick the door down and take care of him myself, but I didn't want to make the situation worse (especially as I was drunk at the time). I called the police straight away, and they turned up very quickly, but having to listen to that and not be able to jump in...well, I can't even decsribe how that felt. I just know that I never want to experience that feeling ever again.
It's the genuine victims who need help, and every false accusation means that real victims are taken even LESS seriously, which is an absolute outrage. All of us proper human beings hate wife-(or husband-) beaters and rapists with a passion, but all I'm asking is that people consider any accusations they hear from both sides of the fence.
I've seen the damage that both genuine attacks, and also false accusations, can do.
Sunday 12 July
By bitchslapped
whenever i feel like i am going to be bitchslapped by a member of the fairer sex i find ,that instead of retalliating with physical violence, an index finger rammed down my own throat brings forth enough vomit to deter even the most ardent of attackers. After a bit of practice, even long range attacks can be effectively countered with a carefully aimed jet of pacifying puke.
Chief instructor.. uk puke fu kwaaan bluuurrghhh
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Wednesday 15 July
By Jerome Peter
I spent ten years working in the field of domestic violence as a charity worker, trying to alert the authorities to the amount of domestic violence committed against men and their children, but it is of no political use to politicians when the domestic violence industry is in the grip of feminist groups, enabled to lie about the amount of abuse committed by men by an equally hostile media.
A few interesting stats. UK Government's Home Office Report 191 (Jan 1999) showed 4.2% of men and 4.2% of women suffered from domestic violence. However these statistics were supposedly extrapolated from the British Crime Survey figures of 1996, which showed in the face to face part of the survey that 0.7% of men and 1.3% of women suffered from DV the previous year. But there was a seperate and detailed computerised component which was also used in the survey that year pertaining to domestic violence, and this gave the responders anonymity.
This showed women were then 3 times more likely to say they had suffered, but men were then ten times more likely, so the true figure from 1996 was about 7% of men suffering and 3.9% of women.
Since then, in one year alone the British Crime Survey showed domestic violence against men rising by over fifty percent, but I suspect that because of articles like this, more men are simply coming forward and speaking out, and quite right too.
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Wednesday 07 October
By geordie
are there any agencies that specialise in this area to which one could go for support or advice?
Wednesday 07 October
By geordie
are there any agencies that specialise in this area to which one could go for support or advice?
Wednesday 15 July
By Bill Shaw
Yes, this is not at all funny! I suffered abuse from a drunken wife for years.After 25 good years, there followed 7 years of worsening abuse. I've been bruised all over my arms and shoulders when covering up. I was hit with fists, plates, a hockey stick. The verbal abuse was worse. My children left home early. I was taught not to hit a woman, so I had to get out of my house, sometimes in the middle of the night and drive into nowhere in particular. Do not make light of this. I think she was in a terrible place mentally; I tried, but was unable to help her. she died four years ago.
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Wednesday 07 October
By Jerome Peter
Any man requiring help for himself and his children can receive the best advice from the Mankind Initiative, a charitable organisation for battered men.
The web address is www.mankind.org.uk. National office and helpline 01823 334244 (10am to 4pm)and 7pm to 9pm Mon to Fri. Amongst their patrons are members of both Houses of Parliament so things are improving but men still need to speak out
Tuesday 21 July
By alex
i have the three high heel scars on the back of my head to prove it. drunk girls are dangerous
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Thursday 23 July
By james graham
We were young and newly married. We had a hell of an arguement and she was in tears. Im gong to phone my mum she yelled. Go on says I and went to walk past her.
She knocked my cold with the telephone handset as I passed.
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Sunday 26 July
By malcolmwilliams
yes i have n deserved it too
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Tuesday 22 September
By steve
ive never hit a women, yet ive been hit a few times. though there is a line with me, cross that line and i will defend myself wheter they be old,young,man or woman.
Im nobodys bitch!
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Saturday 26 September
By Garth
I suffered abuse both physical and verbal from my first wife for ten years. She would go to other members of her family to tell them I was beating her, stealing things, that I was the Devil and a homosexual. They believed her. I stayed with her for 10 years because I knew she was ill. I divorced her and she turned my children against me and I havent seen them for 8 years.
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Saturday 26 September
By Welhrd
I got fed up with being hit by drunken women. So now if they want to hit like a bloke, I hit back and hard so they know whats going to happen the next time they try it on.
Who cares if they're girls, people are'nt supposed to be hitting each other full stop! I've been hit with everything and the only time she didnt get it back was when i was out cold from a cast iron skillet. I've even had my tongue nearly severed by the cow when she bit it nearly off. Everybody thought I'd had a stroke til they saw what she did.
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Saturday 26 September
By Welhrd
Oh yeah, nearly forgot the time she came at me with a 12" kithen knife WHILE i was trying to take a piss! You try holding off a maniac with a knife and finish pissing. Shes lucky i didnt use it on her!
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Tuesday 29 September
By Dragon
Yeah, two notable times (although there were others) by the same bird (and still with her after 15 years). Once she launched a TV set at me, that hurt. Quite some feet because we are talking CRT here not a lightweight puny LCD flatscreen. Another time I got a left hook planted firmly on my chops for being too flirty with other ladies by all accounts.
My fault for going out with a French girl I suppose...
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Wednesday 07 October
By geordie
Within the first year of my marriage it was obvious that abuse (and enjoying it) was second nature to her. Physical abuse I could endure, in fact looking back now the Olympic sport of trying to dodge plates/cups/saucepans/cutlery/chairs/logs etc. seems so surreal as to be almost funny...except that it wasn't at the time and nor were the random slaps, kicks or punches.
Her speciality though was,and is mental/psychological abuse.
She also uses another agency, the Police, to assist her behaviour and one occasion still blazes in my memory 15 years later. On New Year's
Eve I went out just before dusk to shoot pigeons. I was out for about 1 hour, came back inside, locked the gun in its cabinet, got a beer for myself and our guest(Bob Simpson)and continued to enjoy the evening. After Bob had gone to bed my wife and I fell into an argument about the music volume in the lounge..no physical violence involved on either part..but her Ultimatum was that if the volume wasn't turned right down then she would "get you(me) removed from the house".
What she did beggars belief..she phoned the cops,(I was still sitting in the lounge with her), and told them I'd been "drunk and abusive", had "terrorised her" with a shotgun(which had been securely locked away for more than 3 hours and the key left with Bob)and that she was "in fear of her life". Frankly I was astonished! To lie is one thing, but on that scale..!! An Armed Police Response Unit turned up and carted me away! I was stuck in a cell for 3 days(No fun for anyone) In the meantime she phoned all my family and my friends with her propaganda so that when I got out they'd turned their backs on me and believed her bull!
Guess what I was convicted of after all that...no joke...Failing to sign my Shotgun Licence!!!!
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Wednesday 07 October
By geordie
So far its taken all this time for me to re-build the trust and relationships that existed before I introduced the plague that Lorraine is to my family and friends...and it's still an on-going process as the tentacles of her malevolence are unending, as yet.
p.s. the aforementioned incident is not by any means an isolated one. If she can manipulate a person or situation then she will do so.
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Wednesday 07 October
By Jerome Peter
Any man requiring help for himself and his children can receive the best advice from the Mankind Initiative, a charitable organisation for battered men.
The web address is www.mankind.org.uk. National office and helpline 01823 334244 (10am to 4pm)and 7pm to 9pm Mon to Fri. Amongst their patrons are members of both Houses of Parliament so things are improving but men still need to speak out
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Sunday 11 October
By Tilly
In response to 'TheAmazingMeatMan' reply to 'Ozzy'. Give the guy a break, he was answering a serious question with honesty...Dans, Degrees, belt and no belt systems... so what, your semantics don't detract from the fact he still wouldn't hit back no matter what the provocation. Your not in China, he's not in China, I'm not in China, how they grade their students in China is their affair. My Sifu has been awarded the following
Traditional Kung Fu black belt 6th degree
P.F.R. Combat black belt 6th degree
Wing Chun Kung Fu black sash
Lau Gar Kung Fu black sash 1st degree
Long Fong Wu Shu black sash
Thai-Boxing Coach
Instructor of Chen Style Tai Chi
Sambo Russian Wrestling Coach level 1
American Free style wrestling coach level 1
He's considered rock hard even by members of the Chinese Martial Arts Community
You can tell him it means nothing...
Next time stick to the point, try not to 'show off' or put people down otherwise someone might accuse you of 'mental abuse'and/or 'bullying, take your pick.
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